In response to this, my husband and I have partnered together in presenting an ongoing feature here at Adoptee Restoration that gives help to adoptee marriages or future marriages.
You can find all of the posts addressing this issue at the Adoptee Marriage link.
And, for your convenience, here are a list of our current Adoptee Marriage posts:
Adoptee Marriage and the Value of Learning to "Press Pause
Adoption Search ADD and the Importance of Overcoming It (When Your Search Interferes with the Health of Your Marriage)
Adoptees & Marriage: When Your Spouse Doesn't Understand
Adoptees and Trust Issues with Spouses and Significant Others
An Adoptee's Husband Speaks
Can You Be Adopted and Happily Married?
How Can I Get My Spouse to Understand Holiday Triggers?
Marriage and Surprises, and Adoptees, Oh My!!
Why Making Decisions for Your Adoptee Spouse Can Kill Your Marriage!