When Is Closed Adoption the Best Option for a Child?

What reason, aside from a child's safety, would a closed adoption (versus an open adoption) ever be the best option for a child?

I do not ask this question for the sake of argument.

I am genuinely wondering.

This question popped into my mind the other night and won’t get out.

 I have racked my brain in wondering why a closed adoption would EVER be the best option for a child, unless his or her safety were at stake.   

Aside from safety, I struggle to find a compelling reason.

Please, share with me your reasons, if any -- that a closed adoption would be in the child's best interest.

I'm listening... 

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"We Didn't Want Reunion, So We Chose Openness Instead." An Interview with Adoptive Parent, Lori Holden

Lori Holden

Today I’m interviewing the lovely Lori Holden, known in blog world as Lori Lavender Luz.  Lori is a contributing author of Adoption Reunion in the Social Media Age. She’s someone I’ve really come to appreciate in the adoption world and if you haven’t met her yet, you need to!  

 Lori is an adoptive parent who has actually written a book with her daughter’s birth mom. How cool is that?

Lori and I have the pleasure of interviewing one another on our blogs today as part of the Blog Tour for the book release. I was so excited when I found out we had been matched up together, for this writing project!  Lori is the writer of the chapter: “We Didn’t Want Reunion, So We Chose Openness Instead.” 

Deanna: Lori, why do you believe people would think a purposeful reunion, spearheaded by adoptive parents to be “crazy”?

Adoptive Parents Making Big Changes An Interview with Jamie & Donna

When I began this blog, I was aware of the potential of severe criticism. That's why it took me so long to get here. I was afraid. I'll admit it.  I knew I had a lot to lose (possibly family, friends, and more) and I wanted to walk carefully and prayerfully in speaking what was on my heart.

Photo Credit: OneWayStock, Flickr

Although the positive feedback has been overwhelming  there have been days that are discouraging.  On those rare occasions, God is faithful to bring someone along to let me know I need to keep going. The person I'm introducing on the blog today is one of those people.

Jamie and his wife Donna are adoptive parents who used to have very different ideas about adoption than they do today. Then, they began to read certain blogs, and well...the rest is history! A lot of changes have been made in their home, in just the past few months. 

There were a number of times Jamie wrote me a note and said, "I want to encourage you to keep going, because you're making a difference for people like us." When I started out, I had a desire to reach adoptees as well as give Christians a new perspective. I was surprised that some adoptive parents started reading, and reached out to me. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be one of the people who would play a part in helping some of them develop a new approach. My heart has been encouraged over the past five months as Jamie has shared with me the steps he and Donna are taking.

After Jamie gives an introduction I will ask him a few questions. He will also be available in the comment section to interact with. 

 Note: Jamie and Donna are their real names. We have changed the children's names out of respect for the children's privacy.

~Deanna