March 18, 2023

The World is Addicted to Adoptive Parents


It has been ten months (310 days from today, to be exact) since I found my bio father Gus, and reunited with him. And in those ten months I’ve learned many things too numerous to list on one blog post. But today, here’s the one I will focus on.

The entire freaking world is obsessed with adoptive parents. 

 Nothing has changed. 

 And before you say, "It’s just the Christian world, not the whole world..." you're wrong. I promise you on a stack of Bibles, it is THE WHOLE WORLD.

My story hit the news media without me even trying. The extent of my “try” was writing Facebook posts about my father and I to my friends (that were set to public) and made their way into the hands of the media. I was fine with that, and actually honored. However, it has not been without frustration.

One of my biggest headaches in this season has been navigating media inquiries regarding my adoptive parents. One hundred percent of the time, when any media outlet has contacted me, they have wanted to go there. Sometimes literally! One media outlet requested to send a crew to interview both my parents. I said no, that I would refuse to do the interview, if they did. They backed down once I set that boundary.

One news outlet said that if they did not include my parents in the story, their readers would, “not be able to handle it.” I pushed back on this and was told that they (the media) would be bombarded with emails and calls asking about my parents. I said, “So???” They said, “Well, you might be bombarded with questions about them, too.” And I said, “And you don’t think I’m used to that?” I set a boundary by saying, “If you need to contact my adoptive parents to do the article, then I’m not your person and my story isn’t the one for you.”

Recently, I was interviewed by Haley Radke on the Adoptees On podcast, and she said that she found the media coverage about my bio father and I refreshing because it was centered on us, and not my adoptive parents. She noted that this is not typically the case. I let her know that this was only because I fought for that, and set a strong boundary.  If the media had their way, it would have been different.

I say all this to let you know…nothing has changed in this regard. Nothing.

They still (even the liberal news media) focus on adoptive parents first, birth parents second, and IF they focus on the adoptee it is third, but many times we are not considered. The world is still very much adoptive parents centric.

I was assured multiple times that a story would be adoptee centric, but in every single case, it was never exclusively so, as they would push to include my adoptive parents in some regard.

Sadly an adoptee can be 56 years old, and they are still asking to “check in” with our parents. And they wonder why we say we feel like perpetual children?

I literally qualify to order off the freaking SENIORS MENU at a restaurant now and people are STILL CHECKING IN WITH MY PARENTS.

How crazy is this?

Fortunately for me, I am not trying to get news coverage. I can take it or leave it. Every person who has contacted me has been out of the blue and I have not sought it. If they want to include my adoptive parents in the piece, I can drop it and they can find someone else.

This just gets tiring. I really thought when I hit a certain age, this would stop. But it appears you can technically be in your senior years and people will insist on talking to Mommy and Daddy.

And nobody but us thinks this is bizarre?


August 21, 2022

It's LEGAL! Forever & Ever Amen!


Gus and I already knew 100% that we are father and daughter. We matched on 23 and Me with his nephew, and then we had a paternity test done through a home kit. Plus, he remembers the relationship with my mother, and all of that. Not to mention, I look just like him! But…

I want to have it done completely LEGAL, and something that would literally stand up in a court of law. (Not that we will ever need that, but I just wanted to have it.) 

June 21, 2022

Our God-Story



Everyone mentions how heartwarming mine and Gus’s story is. I have had requests for interviews. The first one was with the Orlando Voyager Magazine. They reached out for an interview just a few weeks into us meeting.

You can read the interview at this link. (Click Here!)

I’ve also done a podcast interview recently as well, with Living in the Light, with Dr. Kristi Lemley. She is a podcaster with the Charisma Podcast Network. You can listen to the episode at this link. (Click Here!)  

Our story is going around the world! And we're just getting started.

June 1, 2022

Let's Get the Paternity Party Started!!!


My original 23 and Me test that showed my cousin on the “X” chromosome was more than enough to identify my father, BUT we went ahead and had a paternity test done. The results of that are in! And of course we are a match.

May 30, 2022

I found my father!!!


I found my father! Yes! It’s true!

After searching for him for most of my life, and especially the last ten years, I found my father through a DNA match! It's OFFICIAL, there is NO DOUBT!

Imagine my surprise that my father, Gus, is ALIVE, and 92 years old, and still living in the place that he and my mother met!

June 28, 2021

Dear God: Thank YOU for Getting Me Here!


Recently I decided to read the Gospel of John in the Bible with fresh eyes. Basically this entails trying to forget I know any of the information contained therein and try to take it in like  I’m reading it for the first time. I’m doing this in an effort to know Jesus more and differently than before.

In my quest to do this I came upon a verse in chapter one (Amplified version) that I had never seen before. It’s this one – verse 13, that I made a graphic of. I can’t believe I didn’t notice it before. When I came across it this time, it deeply spoke to me. 

May 26, 2021

DNA Results Are In...


Angela and I are not a DNA match. (Insert primal scream here.) It's back to the drawing board.

I spiritually and emotionally prepared myself for it this time more than any other before this. I didn't stockpile Razzleberry pies. I’m not bloated today from binging. I am so disappointed but not slayed. I'm not taking off work. I'll get a lot more done now that I'm not checking DNA results 30 times a day. I'm not laying in bed crying. I'm not feeling as if I want to check out of life and leave this world.  I'm stronger now. This time I'm just taking a big breath and moving forward with everything in life including searching.