By Larry Shrodes
When we first got married, I went out and bought a bed.
Pretty harmless right?
Wrong. I did it without my wife.
Guys, if there’s one thing you want in marriage, it’s for your wife to like your bed and want to be in it. :)
Whether one is married to an adoptee or not, it would be a smart idea to consult with your spouse about things like this, but for an adoptee marriage, you may be committing marital suicide not to do so.
I got this bed on a great deal, we needed a bed, and I thought, “Hey, I’ll just pick this up and Deanna will love it.” Ha! Epic fail.
Unfortunately with the great deal I got, returning it was not an option. We were stuck with it for quite a while as when we first got married we were too poor to pay attention. Didn’t have two nickels to rub together. What other metaphors can I use? You get the picture…
Going through that situation early on and then many more after it through trial and error showed me something about the adoptee I’m married to. She’s very sensitive about decisions being made for her. She tells me many other adoptees feel the same way.