Adoptees often face proverbial brick walls within their birth or adoptive family. These walls are fortified by misplaced loyalty, secrets, lies, (many of being lies by omission) and the like. Many times well-meaning people will take up the cause of those who are committed to live in secrets and lies. Sometimes they are even loyal to the dead, which is the most bizarre of all.
If you keep secrets, you don’t love.
If you lie, you don’t love.
If you build a wall with people who have done nothing but seek the truth and are committed to live in truth, that’s not love.
Why don't we go where the light is...where the love is? It' because we may not think we deserve it. That's how I felt until very recently.
I am determined to a fault. Giving up is not my strong suit. And, for so long I did not want to let go of toxic people just because I went through hell and back to find them.